{"id":6097,"date":"2026-08-02T08:41:00","date_gmt":"2026-08-02T08:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=6097"},"modified":"2026-08-02T08:41:00","modified_gmt":"2026-08-02T08:41:00","slug":"dear-abby-i-just-realized-the-significance-of-these-earrings-can-i-still-wear-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=6097","title":{"rendered":"Dear Abby: I just realized the significance of these earrings. Can I still wear them?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<div>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY<\/strong>: Two years ago, my mother bought a pair of diamond earrings for the two of us to split. She wears one every day, and I wear the other.<\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=6096\">Today in History: August 2, \u2018Wild Bill\u2019 shot and killed during poker game<\/a><\/p>\n<p>She tried doing the same thing with my older sister about 20 years ago, but after my sister lost her diamond earring for the second time, they mutually agreed to give up.<\/p>\n<p>Last summer, my mother gave me a box of old jewelry, odds and ends. I found two diamond earrings that looked similar but weren\u2019t from the same pair, so I took them \u2014 who doesn\u2019t like diamonds? Now I am realizing they\u2019re likely Mom\u2019s half of the pairs she split with my sister.<\/p>\n<p>Can I wear them? I have a place for each, but would it be an act of bad faith to horn in on what was originally their tradition?<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2014 BEJEWELED IN NEVADA<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR BEJEWELED<\/strong>: Your mother gave you the box of old jewelry. The items were hers but now they are yours.<\/p>\n<p>Your sister lost the mates to those earrings and the tradition ended. Your sister should have no claim on them.<\/p>\n<p>Wear them and enjoy them without guilt.<\/p>\n<div>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY<\/strong>: After a nearly 20-year marriage, my first husband, \u201cLloyd,\u201d told me his feelings for me had changed.<\/p>\n<p>He said we needed \u201csome time apart,\u201d but he didn\u2019t want a divorce. He immediately went to a lawyer and executed a financial settlement for me, still insisting he wasn\u2019t going to file for divorce.<\/p>\n<p>Six weeks later, I bought a house and moved. Two weeks later, I learned from his son that Lloyd had moved a woman in with him two days after I moved out. Obviously, we divorced.<\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=6094\">With trade deadline looming, SF Giants\u2019 Arraez scratched from Saturday\u2019s lineup due to cramping<\/a><\/p>\n<p>In time, I remarried and was very happy for 13 years until my husband died. I took care of him for the last three years.<\/p>\n<div>\n<\/div>\n<p>A year later, my older brother became ill, and I went to help him 300 miles away. It also turned into a nearly three-year stay.<\/p>\n<p>I have been back home for only a year and a half now. I just received a text from a friend of Lloyd\u2019s, telling me Lloyd has passed away. None of Lloyd\u2019s family contacted me, nor did they let me know his brother had died a while back.<\/p>\n<p>I have been so hurt by this man. After I moved, he told many lies. He said that I had been cheating, etc., and literally turned the whole community against me. When the true story came out, a lot of people apologized for treating me so badly.<\/p>\n<p>I feel indifference toward my ex. The bad memories with him far outweigh the good ones, and I don\u2019t want to go to his funeral. It would feel two-faced because I lost all respect for him many years ago.<\/p>\n<p>Am I wrong for not acknowledging his death?<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2014 MOVING ON IN THE SOUTH<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR MOVING ON<\/strong>: You certainly are not wrong.<\/p>\n<p>People attend funerals in order to pay their respects and emotionally support the grieving family. Your presence is not required at this one. Lloyd\u2019s family would not welcome it, and neither would the woman who helped to break up your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>On that day, do something you would enjoy, ideally with friends who support you.<\/p>\n<p><em>Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=6092\">Capital One cites money laundering review in Trump-related suit<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Plus: Am I wrong for not acknowledging my ex-husband&#8217;s death?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5287,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6097","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Dear Abby: I just realized the significance of these earrings. 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