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DEAR ABBY<\/strong>: My daughter, \u201cAmelia,\u201d is 26 and has been dating her boyfriend for almost three years. He is great, and my family loves him.<\/p>\n

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He has a son from a previous relationship who was born while my daughter was dating him. (He and the baby\u2019s mom broke up while she was pregnant.)<\/p>\n

Amelia is great with the little boy, but we want more for her. We would love to see the relationship go further, but although he keeps telling her it\u2019s going to happen \u201csoon,\u201d it never does.<\/p>\n

Amelia has taken on many roles, and I believe she deserves more of a commitment from him. She helps to raise his son with nothing in return but empty promises.<\/p>\n

Are my husband and I wrong for wanting more for her? She has expressed that she also wants the commitment. Should we approach the subject with him?<\/p>\n

\u2014 MAMA WANTS MORE<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR MAMA:<\/strong> I don\u2019t think it would be wise for you and your husband to approach Amelia\u2019s boyfriend and try to wrest a commitment from him.<\/p>\n

You do, however, need to air your feelings with your daughter. She could remain in limbo for years if she doesn\u2019t assert herself.<\/p>\n

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If the romance doesn\u2019t work out, the person who may suffer most is that little boy, who will have lost another mother figure.<\/p>\n

DEAR ABBY<\/strong>: My husband and I have been married 45 years, but over the last six months, we\u2019ve had numerous fights about Facebook.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m having issues with his addiction to social media and his constant posts and comments with people I don\u2019t know. I get jealous about these interactions with women. He has never given me reason not to trust him, but I\u2019m having trouble with this.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s also a problem when he has one or two alcoholic drinks.<\/p>\n

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If I ask him about something FB-related, it sometimes sets him off and we have a big fight. He becomes very unreasonable, and it\u2019s always my fault.<\/p>\n

In person, he\u2019s very friendly and sometimes teases women. I get jealous about that, too.<\/p>\n

We recently moved to this area and don\u2019t have many friends, and that seems to be making things worse.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m feeling sad and lack self-esteem right now. I don\u2019t know how to get over this. Do you have any suggestions? He won\u2019t go to counseling because he says it\u2019s \u201cmy problem,\u201d not his.<\/p>\n

\u2014 ALWAYS WRONG IN WEST VIRGINIA<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR ALWAYS WRONG<\/strong>: Your husband appears to be a \u201cpeople person.\u201d Nowhere in your letter did you indicate that he has been unfaithful. It would be wrong to try to change his personality because you feel insecure.<\/p>\n

A way for you (both) to make friends in a new community would be to involve yourselves in it. Join a club or a service organization, sign up for a gym or volunteer to help others who are less fortunate. If you and your husband are religious, affiliate with a house of worship. This should facilitate integrating yourselves.<\/p>\n

However, if your sadness and lack of self-esteem don\u2019t lessen, then discuss this with a licensed mental health professional.<\/p>\n

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.<\/em><\/p>\n

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