{"id":2917,"date":"2026-06-24T09:06:31","date_gmt":"2026-06-24T09:06:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=2917"},"modified":"2026-06-24T09:06:31","modified_gmt":"2026-06-24T09:06:31","slug":"harriette-cole-i-just-met-him-and-he-said-he-loves-me-how-should-i-feel-about-this","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=2917","title":{"rendered":"Harriette Cole: I just met him, and he said he loves me. How should I feel about this?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<div>\n<p><strong>DEAR HARRIETTE:<\/strong> Recently, I started seeing this guy, and I am really into him. We have known each other for a week and have already seen each other twice.<\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=2916\">Miss Manners: People with these chic names don\u2019t realize the problems they create<\/a><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s safe to say that I am falling fast, but I am worried that I\u2019m being love-bombed. He brought me my favorite drinks and seashells from his walk on the beach, and he talked about our futures while also bringing up his ex-girlfriend, other people he\u2019s seeing and how he\u2019s too busy for a relationship at the moment.<\/p>\n<p>I feel like he\u2019s giving me things and making empty promises to make up for the fact that this will probably end with me getting hurt.<\/p>\n<p>After our second hangout, he said, \u201cLove you,\u201d while leaving. I was caught off guard and didn\u2019t know how to respond, and I still don\u2019t know how to feel.<\/p>\n<p>Do you think that I\u2019m being love-bombed, or am I reading too much into the situation? Is it possible that he just casually says he loves people?<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2014 Love or Lies<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR LOVE OR LIES<\/strong>: Slow down and take a deep breath. This guy sounds like a charmer. Flinging \u201clove you\u201d around like an air kiss may be fun for him, but you are considering it seriously. Don\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>In two dates, yes, you have had fun and he seems both romantic and attentive, but that does not a long-term relationship make. If you can just enjoy the moment, continue to see him.<\/p>\n<div>\n<\/div>\n<p>He has told you that he isn\u2019t ready for commitment. Believe him.<\/p>\n<p>Suggesting that this man is love-bombing you implies that you think he is duping you; I think he is just having fun with you. If you can go along and casually enjoy his flirtations and attentiveness, enjoy yourself. If you feel the need to cling to him with hopes of a relationship, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.<\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=2915\">Dear Abby: After her confession, I no longer see her as my wife<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR HARRIETTE:<\/strong> An old manager of mine recently reached out to me and offered me a job.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a department store-esque luxury makeup beauty adviser position in an upscale neighborhood in New York City. The job aligns with my interests and would give me money that I desperately need, especially since I didn\u2019t get a summer internship.<\/p>\n<div>\n<\/div>\n<p>My only fear with taking the job is that I\u2019ll trap myself in retail when I should be networking and trying to get industry exposure. I also don\u2019t want to run into scheduling conflicts during the school year when classes resume, causing me to have to quit the job and let down my former manager.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think I should do? Should I take the job for now and see whether anything changes or becomes available in the future?<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2014 The Job Hunt Drama<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR THE JOB HUNT DRAMA:<\/strong> Your old manager knows you and respects you enough to invite you to take this position. That is excellent. Now it\u2019s your turn to be mature and clear.<\/p>\n<p>Explain your schedule \u2014 not the desire to network. You have to figure that out in between work and the rest of your life. Talk about your upcoming school schedule, and find out if he is willing to have you work full time now and change your schedule to accommodate school in the fall.<\/p>\n<p><em>Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c\/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Read more <a href=\"https:\/\/nextcitydigest.com\/?p=2914\">SF Giants\u2019 Devers apologizes to Vitello for \u2018misunderstanding\u2019, blames media for blowing things out of proportion<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How should I feel about this?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":92,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2917","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Harriette Cole: I just met him, and he said he loves me. 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