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DEAR ABBY<\/strong>: My father passed away and left me a large sum of money. One of the first things I did was pay off my husband\u2019s debts totaling over $140,000. I also paid off my vehicle. I also paid $600,000 in cash for the home we live in.<\/p>\n

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For Christmas, I want to give each of my three adult children $10,000 from me and their grandfather. My husband (of one year) asked if I was planning on giving his two adult children the same. I replied no, which was not well-received.<\/p>\n

Am I wrong here? I don\u2019t feel his adult children are entitled to my inheritance. They never even met my father.<\/p>\n

My husband commented that my father (who married my mother and adopted me at 3 years old) gave me the same amount as each of my brothers and sister. Well, Abby, that man was my father for 57 years. I do not feel it\u2019s the same as his adult children, whom I didn\u2019t raise.<\/p>\n

I have met his son only a handful of times, and I have been more than generous to his daughter and our 2-year-old granddaughter.<\/p>\n

If I\u2019m wrong, I will admit it and make amends. This is causing great stress on our relationship, and he refuses to go to marriage counseling with me. What do you think?<\/p>\n

\u2014 NOT THE SAME IN THE EAST<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR NOT THE SAME<\/strong>: I agree with you that the situation is not the same. Your husband\u2019s children are not entitled to a share of your inheritance.<\/p>\n

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Because your husband refuses to see a marriage counselor with you does not mean you shouldn\u2019t go, which is what I am urging you to do in order to find clarity and learn how to move forward from this extremely awkward situation.<\/p>\n

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DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> I\u2019m a senior in high school, and I have had a certain friend since sixth grade. I\u2019m a Democrat; she\u2019s a Republican. Until lately, we\u2019ve been able to put our differences aside, but recently, we\u2019ve had a few clashes because of our political differences.<\/p>\n

Given how bad things are today and how much worse they might get, I struggle to ignore these issues. I\u2019ve also noticed a few people say they dislike me because they think I believe the same way as her.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to end our friendship over something like this, but I don\u2019t see how it can continue much longer. Please help me make the right decision.<\/p>\n

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\u2014 MORALLY TORN FRIEND<\/em><\/p>\n

DEAR FRIEND:<\/strong> There\u2019s an old saying that politics and religion are not appropriate topics for polite conversation. Now you know why.<\/p>\n

There are two ways to resolve this. You can sit down with your friend and agree to disagree. Then promise you will avoid discussing politics from now on. The other option is to thank each other for a friendship that was great while it lasted. Then let each other go.<\/p>\n

DEAR READERS<\/strong>: Were you between 16 and 25 years old when you had a baby? A group of healthcare specialists who work with young parents and their children want young families to receive the best possible healthcare support and treatment. They need to hear about your experiences when you went to get healthcare for yourself or your children. Your experiences will be used to help improve the system. Please go to this site to share your experience. \u2014 LOVE, ABBY<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.<\/em><\/p>\n

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